I hear the frustration in your voice. Why continue doing something that you no longer enjoy. I would hate to see the end of this podcast but sometimes doors must close so that others may open. . . Just something to think about.

-Spode (Hong Kong)

I remembered when Archerr was in the same boat as you are in now, he took a break and went back to podcast again after a short while, although this time not as regular as it used to be. Maybe you just need to restart, give it a rest, hit the reset button, revitalize and boom, you’ll make your decision by then.

Anyway, thank you for sharing but hopefully you won’t quit. Meanwhile, enjoy your break and have fun.

I’m thinking of making a DING and a DABELL doll and will send it to you guys… Because you always make me happy and of course because I love my friend JOHN!

Keep it up guys, you make a lof of heart smile with your podcast. Even if i’m on hiatus in the podcasting world, i’m still around..

The Pinoylicious OLIVER!!!

(www.OliverMakesDolls.co.nr)

I prefer the toilet tissue to be fixed OVER than under. Why? I don’t really know the reason why. Maybe, that’s how I grew up with and that’s how my Mom fix the toilet tissue in our bathroom, so up to this point in time that’s how I want the toilet tissue to be. The funny thing is when I go to my BFs or sister’s house or some other houses for that matter, I do notice how their toilet tissue is arranged, although I wanted to fix it the way I am used to, I don’t, because it’s not my house and who cares anyway, it’s just a toilet humor that nobody will appreciate, except OCDs.

I hope that made sense.

G’day. Wondering if I’m the only one having a problem in dowloading this podcast (#350). I’m using a PC and have been trying to download since yesterday but its’ giving me an error that the “file cannot be is unavailable or cannot be found.”

Would you mind tkaing a second look.

Thanks.

Dave

It is in this kind of life threatening events that we are reminded that life is really so short and fragile, so enjoy it while you can and live life to its fullest.

I’m so glad you’re safe.

Merry Merry Merry Christmas to you. Have a wonderful and fabulous one.

Now….it’s not that I don’t like flossing…I just don’t do it as often as I should..every other day….and that’s just not enough. I’m getting better.

Loved hearing you in the shower…too funny!

We def need to meet up sometime, we’ve only been saying that for 2 years or so. lol Definately before Summer. By the way, yes I’m single (have any handsome single friends??!!) and yes the Plan9 refers to the movie Plan 9 From Outer Space.

Like yourself, I’ve been a busy whore and am waaaay behind on yours and Nick’s podcasts. Will be catching up in the coming days.

Anyway, have a great week and stay warm! Brrrrrrrrrr.

It was two friends out having fun. I do that all the time with my friends. I even feed them sometimes. Hahaha…

Thanks again.

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I love your “infidelity in your pants or in your brain (or is it in your mind)” analogy. I couldn’t agree more with you. And it couldn’t be said any better. It was hard to think straight when I first discovered my partner was “snacking”. Both of us were inexperience I must admit. (I was 27 he was 35.) I kept harping on the action of infidelity and failed to find out where his heart and mind were. I guess it was how we drifted apart. There were communications, but they turned into blaming games all too quickly too often. I was too conservative, too restrictive in my approach. (Don’t get me wrong but I did give him a lot of space and freedom.) Up until 2 years ago I still harbored the thought that he was the one to blame. But now, the new me is starting to look at things differently, more liberal if you may, away from the traditional views and expectations of a relationship and more emphasis on that thing between the ears and less on the thing between our legs. Had I known and accepted such way of thinking earlier, I would have dealt with it differently, and maybe the relationship would have taken a different turn, maybe even becoming stronger. Maybe. But growing up in a society where relationships are mostly monogamous, no leeway, no discount (at least in mine), I suppose a lot of us have to constantly be reminded not to get overly sticky with the action of infidelity but rather the causes behind it. And your episode did just that. The one thing that was hard for me personally is that I always believe physical intimacy and love must always go together and that the occasional outdoor rendezvous or flirting means betrayal. Full stop. But like you’ve said again and again, I rather he be with me because he wants to, not because he is forced to by me, by a vow, or by a paper. There is no need to put anyone on a leash (unless you are into BDSM). If he loves you, he loves you. That means even if one has to spend a lot of time away from his partner. After all, if you love someone, you would want him to be happy wouldn’t you.

Speaking of spending time away, apparently Jaycee is concerned with John’s regular travels. Why is that a problem? What does Jaycee mean by John’s exploits and adventures? Am I missing something here? Which episode was that? LOL!

And I wonder what makes Jaycee think the other person who is not traveling will not or cannot possibly be adventurous?

Again, thanks for sharing, John. Love your podcast. Purleeease don’t stop.

And hello Nick. Thanks for sharing. I listen to you too, occasionally.

First of all let me clear my side (as well as my partner’s – who is truly unaware about my being curious of the topic of infidelity), my partner nor have I cheated or strayed out of our relationship – as far as physical contact is concerned and as far as I am aware of. I trust my partner so much as he trust me. I am asking the question of infidelity because it made me wonder about John’s recent exploits and his seemingly regular out of the country adventures and Bruce’s dealing of this situation. I am not saying that I will not be in this dilemma but I am seeking some insights in case.

Just like John said, honesty and truthfulness makes the relationship stronger; and there lots of ingredients in a relationship that need to be build up and strengthen. Once you lose respect, there’s no better move than to let go.

I still believe in monogamy and I also do believe that there are a lot of couples out there, straight or gay, who are into this kind of relationship. I am not looking for an ideal partner nor having a perfect relationship but rather I am hoping that my partner will put my feelings first before he makes a wrong move, vice versa.

Say for example I have been in that situation, I think, I will be more understanding than angry. Nobody’s perfect, all of us make mistakes. But then again, if the cheating involves emotions then that’s a different story. It’s always easy to give opinions than experiencing that situation first hand. I think time will tell, I may stick to my opinions but I don’t know if I will be able to take it lightly.

Thank you John for this podcast and thank you too Nick for your very conclusive and interesting comment.

I like the show idea. I’m not sure what I said in the show that triggered that. But I’ll be happy to answer all you asked.
In fact, I have a clear idea of everything you asked.

Feel free to send me more questions about my relationship or my opinion on issues a couple may encounter.