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Farewell to our girl, Tach?ɬ. Bruce and I celebrated being together for 11 years. The movie UP. The journey is more important than the destination. Other podcasters’ relationships and views on relationships. My 2 cents.
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So sorry for your loss John. You are right. She is no longer suffering.
John, you’ve misrepresented some of what I said in my podcast concerning monogamy. I do however agree about what I’d expect of a partner (lover). I’ll talk about what I think you’ve misunderstood about my podcasts concerning relationships. I support gay relationships. I merely think (I think) that monogamy is out of the norm in gay relationships. And that the majority of gay relationships fail. You’ve managed to sustain yours. That’s great for you. But I think there are many lonely gay men out in the world. Some enjoy the single life. Some spend a lifetime trying to find that special someone. And some like you and Bruce have been successful to this point. I wish you and Bruce continued happiness. I don’t think I’m as bad as you made me out in this podcast.
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I am deeply saddened by Tache’s passing. She is out of pain now and I’m sure she is very happy where she is now. She had her happiest times with you and Bruce and these moments will be forever cherished.
I am really sorry.
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So sorry to hear about your cat. You were so emotional on your show. I feel so bad for you. Remember the good times.
Thank you Nick, JayCee, and Archerr.
I am doing fine. I was indeed emotional at the moment. Bruce and I miss Taché very much. But we are not dwelling on her death. In fact, we were looking at pictures of her and a funny video of her playing with us on top of our bookshelves.
Thanks all.
Sorry to hear about Taché, but glad to hear that you both are remembering the good times instead of dwelling on the bad.
Interesting to hear your thoughts on “The Journey.” I’ve always tried my best to believe that The Journey IS the Destination. Take care.
greg b.
Oh John! I am so very sorry to hear this sad news. I cried with you while listening to your podcast episode. Tache’ had the very best set of “daddies” she could ever hope to find. It is difficult. I remember when I had to let my beloved Danny Boy go (episode 22). Please know that the amount of grief that you feel is equal to the amount of love that you showed your “girl”.
I wish I was there to give you a hug.
I’m glad that you have Bruce there with you.
Your Nashville Friend,
Thom
On a lighter note, belated Happy Anniversary to you and Bruce. Wishing you more love, patience and understanding on the meaningful and worthwhile journey to your destination.
I, too, believe that monogamous relationship works better than any other arrangements. Probably because of my upbringing , I grew up in a religious family setting (Catholic, that is), went to Catholic high school and college. But also I can attribute my belief on monogamy on personal experiences and ideals. I’m a jealous type of guy who is sometimes (unconsciously) possessive so open relationships doesn’t really work for me. Overall, it is the value and pride of having one-on-one relationship that is the most important of all. And I don’t see any difference between gay or straight relationship, they both have their ups and downs – others cheat others don’t and there are those who stayed together for better or for worse and there are those who parted ways because of their differences.
B & J,
We are so sorry and saddened by Taché’s passing and can only imagine how you guys must be feeling about it. It must be incredibly difficult even knowing that it was the right thing to do. Rest assured that Taché is at a better place where she is at peace now. We are sure that Taché had a very joyous life with you guys and Taché provided you with unconditional love and companionship in return. Our thoughts are with you and we hope you can find peace and serenity, even in the moments of awkward silence, knowing Taché is still there, with you in spirit, along with all the thoughts of your friends. After all she’s the kitty with Harry Potter tail…:)
Thank you Greg, Thom, Jaycee, Jeff & Kenny.
We are coping very well. All your love and support definitely helped.
Jeff & Kenny, yes, Harry Potter tail. We really missed her, but we have lots of fond memories of her.
Hi John, this is Fio from Hong Kong. I’ve been listening to your podcasts since the episode #270.
I sobbed on my way to the office this morning when hearing the bad news. Though sad, you’ve made a right decision which set both you and your girl free. Taché would surely understand and appreciate it.
Eleven years! Congratulations. It’s not easy right? My partner and I are having our fourth year of relationship which is largely sweet 🙂
Take very good care, John.
Spode,
Thank you very much for your care and comment, I really appreciate it.
Fio,
Thanks for your thoughts and message. It’s much better these days. But we both still get a little sad when we think of her. Many things remind us of her.
This past weekend, Bruce and I took a trip to IKEA as our anniversary trip. Bought some furniture and some organizational tools. We had a great time. I posted some pictures on Flickr.
Ongline on Flickr
John
This episode was very touching and it reminded me of when I had to go through the same thing with my two cats. Like you I had my two cats for over 13 years each and they are part of your family.
It takes courage to share the emotional side when it comes to podcasting and I thank for doing this. I know it wasn’t easy but often these shows are the ones that touch the listeners the most. I have had my share of these on my show and so I can relate.
I have two cats Bristow and Repeat and my dog Starbuck who help make my life a little better with their love and of course drive me crazy from time to time.