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Death of an influential director in Malaysia, Yasmin Ahmad. An email from a listener who reminded me why we need to be out an speak out. Ex gay movement is very bad for young GLBT children.
Ongline Podcast documents the life of a gay Malaysian-born Chinese American. Immerse yourself in the life of a not-so-typical individual. Expand your horizon by experiencing the topics, issues, stories, and simply, the life of a gay Asian man. Until now, the voice of a minority individual has not been this loud!
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Hi and good day!
I’m a pc user, tried downloading but can’t, any advise?
Tried to listen directly but it’s giving me an “error opening file” message.
Is it just me? Can’t seem to download your podcast today (#332)
Thanks for your attention John.
Have a great week.
JayCee, thanks for pointing it out. I have gone back to 2007, and named my file 2007 instead of 2009, that’s why the link was broken.
It’s all good now.
Those subscribed on iTunes shouldn’t be affected, because I pointed the file to the wrongly named one, but you can still download, just wrongly named. But all is fixed there too.
When I refreshed iTunes today it downloaded your last podcast as well as this one. Not sure why.
Anyway, this was a great topic today. This would have been really good in a group discussion. Do you discuss things like this on your other podcast? The Malaysian one?
Archerr,
Please talk about it on your show. I’d like to hear more from others. Since I’m too busy to do a group show, please bring it up if anyone wants to talk about it.
I don’t do much discussions about such topics very often. But I have done it, and will probably do it again. But they all know that I’m gay, and I drop my gayness very naturally in our conversations without making it a topic. But I will.
The reason why it downloaded twice was I was having a senior moment, and I named the file 2007 instead of 2009, and I had to change that in the feed, so that’s considered a new file, therefore iTunes thought it’s something new.
Have you watched “Prayers for Bobby” yet, this was shown in Lifetime Channel just recently? This is a very enlightening movie especially for those “religious” people who have the dilemma on dealing with a gay family member. Where a son who has no one to turn to and left with no choice but to end his life. This sad and horrific choice was greatly influenced by the pressure of religion and his mother’s insistence of “curing” him through prayers and other religious means. In the end, the mother realized that her son’s being gay is not a “sin” nor “illness” but rather another human being living his “normal” life.
As I have mentioned before, I grew up in a religious and conservative environment (family and surroundings combined). It was a difficult time growing up, how I wished I wasn’t considered “different” but treated as normal as any other person. I have came out to my friends and closed relatives but still I don’t have the courage to come out to the whole world. Maybe because of the influence of the past, the fear of being ridiculed, laughed at and discriminated upon. I just wished my parents were as broad-minded as some other parents are, sad but it’s true – as hard as it can be, I try to understand them more. I did everything admirable as a son or daughter can be, be the best son they have but unfortunately these great things I did and have are clouded by my being gay.
I wonder when will I see that “colorful” world you are mentioning John, and when will this heavy rock lifted from my heart. Hopefully someday.
JayCee, I hope the day will come for you. The day came when I came to terms with myself. You have already achieved that in some ways. I think having the love and full blessings of who you are by your parents is great. But at the end of the day, it is us who have to face it.
Coming out is a process, some take months, some years, some tens of years. But every day becomes easier if we put a bit of effort each day.
Jaycee
I do wish you the best and like John Ong I have my own podcast and after reading your comments I have to say that I can totally relate to how you are feeling. I have talked about my own issues with my folks especially my mother over the past few years and it does take time – just continue to be the person you are and make sure you talk with your parents or family or friends who are still dealing with you and the coming out process.
A while ago, I had interviewed a woman Mary Lou Wallner who was featured in an amazing documentary called For the Bible Tells Me So and she talks about her daughter who came out as a lesbian. Sadly Mary Lou was not accepting at first and her daughter committed suicide and since that horrible day – Mary Lou and her husband travel the country talking about her story and her thoughts about religion and the community. Mary Lou came to my area and they had a showing of this film and I encouraged my mom to go and she did. After it was over, she talked with Mary Lou and it really had a HUGE impact on my mother. She called me the next day and basically apologized for all the things she had done over the years and the various comments she made. It was a huge moment for us and it will be something I will never forget.
The key thing I hope you will learn is that you are a wonderful person and you are here for a reason and there is no reason you need to waste a second thinking otherwise. I truly wish you the best.
hugs
Tom
Thank you John and Tom for the encouraging words and insights.
I hope the TIME will come when my parents will be enlightened and accepting as I wish them to be.
I will keep all your advices and will not give up.
Jaycee,
I totally understand your situation. Sometimes for some people, not coming out to their parents is the right thing to do. I know we all yearn to give our parents our truest self. But considering the consequences, some may have chosen not to. And we should respect that.
Coming out is only right when it is right for the particular individual.
Take your time. Listen to your gut, but don’t forget to push your own limits too.