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A listener, a potential podcaster, Peter Lopez brought up a topic that is worth discussing. Asian men having unprotected sex. I added some of my opinion about unprotected sex in the younger gay community.
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Being Asian, I think it’s the lack of education or information or just like what you had mentioned “trying to please the sexual partner”, that some if not most gay Asians do unprotected sex – gay Asians tend to mimic its female counterpart by being submissive, likable and pleasurable. Growing up in Asia, I can say there is really lack of education and information (as well as materials) available, primarily because there is not much public and government support of the gay community and that homosexuals are still considered taboo – like a caste system that this population is being ignored or taken for granted.
As for the white guys (or not Asian guys) who encounter, adore and love gay Asians (“GA”) of this type, instead of being passive and going with the flow (doing unprotected sex), they should be proactive. Be the one to make the first move, use condoms, ask the GA to do regular test, either HIV or STD test. Be the information disseminator, help these GAs be consciously aware of the dangers of unprotected sex.
In my own experience, my intuition of having sex is doing it with one person only, and instinctively I assume that the other person has the same mind set as I am but in the real world this is not true. Most GAs are not exposed to polygamous contacts (this is just my opinion, I hope my generalization is correct), we tend to stick to one person. Having numerous relationships in one period of time is unusual for a GA (again, as far as my experience and my GA peers’ are concerned).
Anyway, it’s a very interesting topic, hopefully there will be ways to enlighten the “innocent” gay Asians. Maybe, YOU could be the channel for this awareness campaign.
One problem I find to be an obstacle for some Asians due to our culture is our unwillingness to talk about things. Talking isn’t always what we’re good at. Obeying typically is. I was taught to obey and not speak up especially to those you love and respect. But obviously I grew out of that at a very young age. I usually speak my mind. I hope others would do the same.